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Jesus can be likened to a USAF Pararescueman. He was highly skilled and specially selected for the mission. He jumped in behind enemy lines. He knew that He was likely to die. He chose to do it anyway, "that others may live" -- forever.

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Love and Sex

The ‘sin of Onan’ is NOT…

Genesis 38:6-10 tells the story of an odd man named Onan. Sadly, his story has been misused by many preachers for a long time. As a result, a lot of people have walked around with a lot of needless guilt.

This is another post in AFSOC’s “Love and Sex” category. More so in the last 100 years than at any other time in Christian history, information about sex has become separated from information about the God that created it. As a result, because “nature abhors a vacuum”, a lot of misinformation has filled society. And, some of that misinformation (and even disinformation!) has crept into modern church congregations.

The backstory matters

In the paragraph shown, readers learn that Onan is the second son of Judah, The mother is a Canaanite woman named Shua. This is problematic, because God had promised Abraham that He would displace the Canaanites and then give the Israelites that land. Mingling with the Canaanites was prohibited. And yet, as soon as he left home, Judah (from whom the Jews are named) married a Canaanite woman and promptly fathered his first son, named Er. Then, Er behaved wickedly, and so God killed him.

Even early in their history, it had become a custom of the Israelites that, if a husband died without a son, then the brother next in line was required to have sex with the widow and thus father a son to leave a legacy for the deceased brother. So, Judah told his son Onan to “go into” his brother’s wife and perform his “duty”. But, in a moment of greed, Onan decides that any heir would not be his anyway, and so he refuses to father a child. (Notably, he didn’t refuse to have sex with his sister-in-law. He only refused to father a child. And, he did so by “spilling his seed” [i.e.: “shooting his load”] onto the ground.)

Preachers and others have used that story as purported “proof” that the Bible prohibits masturbation — which they refer to euphamistically as “the sin of Onan”. But, there are several problems with that “logic”. At this point, if you have not already read “The Book of WOW“, then it might be a good idea to take a break from this and read that examination of the Song of Solomon. The best guide for sex was written by the God that invented it. As a result, Christian married couples should be having the best sex of anyone around.

But, what about…?

But, what about never-married people? Widows and widowers? What about when one’s spouse is out of town on a business trip? Military deployment? Or, just because…? What about when “solo sex” is the only available option? Scripture says that God “will make a way of escape” when temptation is more than one can bear (1st Corinthians 10:13). Is masturbation that way of escape if the temptation is adultery or other sinful acts? I have been reading the Holy Bible for five decades, and I cannot name a single Scripture that prohibits masturbation. Claiming that it is “the sin of Onan” is not supported by the only verses that mention his name. Onan’s sins were pride, greed, and disobedience, Masturbation isn’t on the list.

Heavy burdens

Jesus warned the people of His day regarding the religious leaders that “lay heavy burdens upon other men’s backs, but lift not a finger to help them”. (Matthew 23:4) In my experience, the most egregious example of that regards modern preachers telling people that masturbation is a sin. They often do that right after telling them that looking at someone lustfully is a sin. Thus, the person feels “boxed in” with no way of escape. Guilt and shame swell up inside them. And then, that guilt and shame do damage to both the person that sought answers and often to others around that person. That sort of situation destroys lives and marriages. Meanwhile, such pastors “lift not a finger to help them”.

There is plenty more to say about this topic, but I wanted to keep this brief. If you have questions, then please post them in the Comments section. I will reply. My hope is that this post will become a focal point of discussion of a topic that has long been brushed aside — much to the detriment of people needing advice versus shaming. I promise that the answers will have a Bible foundation — which should resolve the problem, because it is the authoritative source.

I have long thought that “somebody” should take a stand and tell people what the Bible says about sex and where the boundaries are. Now that I have founded AFSOC, I’m taking that stand. As this site grows (and, eventually, we have a core congregation with a physical building), my long-term goal is to host day-long seminars on the topic of how to have hot sex within marriage. (The link is to another site with a similar viewpoint.) If this interests you, then please subscribe to this blog and consider supporting us. Thank you.

2 COMMENTS

  1. Please do not misinterpret what is posted here.

    While I did write that masturbation is not a sin, that does not condone pornography.

    Perhaps that seems like hair-splitting, but it isn’t. Having “solo sex” means exactly that — solo. Looking at pornography is a way to “defile the marriage bed” by inviting someone else into it. Thus, it is a form of adultery. There is a real person on the other end of that Internet connection, and using porn is a “virtual” form of having sex with that other person.

    In a similar way, using sex toys is crossing another line. Rather than having sex with another person (even if in an online form), using toys is having sex with an inanimate object. There is a big moral difference between having sex with one’s own hand (which God created) versus getting relief from a plastic toy (which was made in a factory). To make matters worse, in ancient times people had PUBLIC sex with inanimate objects — which were idols of various foreign “gods”. One of the idols that greatly angered Yehowah God was that of Baal Peor (which is translated “Lord Hole”). You get the picture.

    Yes, I know… other pastors say that sex toys are not a problem. The Holy Bible says (in 2nd Timothy 4:3), “For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires.” So, ask yourself whether the Holy Spirit has convicted you by what I’ve written above. Scripture should change the wayward person, and not the other way around. Pastors that teach a “no boundaries” perspective are not teaching God’s perspective.

  2. Also, this column is NOT a “license to sin”.

    For example, if you are masturbating several times a day, then you need help.

    Picture this analogy. Water heaters are designed with a pressure-relief valve. It exists to prevent the device from exploding, in the event that something goes wrong inside. As designed, the valve is very important to the safety of your home.

    But, if the valve is “popping off” several times per day, or even once every day, then it is an indication that something is wrong inside the water heater — and, you need to call a plumber right away. Continuing to operate in that “danger zone” is a recipe for disaster. In our modern society, it is considered somehow “impolite” to point out that a problem even exists, and even more so to dare suggest that the problem needs repair. But, if someone doesn’t point it out, then an explosion becomes an even greater risk.

    If this rings a bell for you, then feel free to contact me for prayer and advice.

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Tom Kovach (rhymes with "watch") is a former US Air Force law enforcement supervisor, a former Civil Air Patrol search and rescue Ranger instructor and commander, a former deputy sheriff, a certified paralegal, a licensed armed security officer, and a licensed insurance agent. Tom is working on his private investigator's license. He is also a Class-A freefall parachutist, an open-water scuba diver, and a published author. Tom studied theology at the Orthodox Monastery of the Annunciation. Tom Kovach is the founder of the Ancient Future Scriptural Online Church (AFSOC). He lives in the Nashville area.